Contentment: And Then What? -By Karla

I Want It Now

I LOVED Willie Wanka and the Chocolate Factory, with all its greedy children and the kind, innocent Charlie. Man! I so wanted a golden ticket when I was a kid. I enjoyed singing all the songs. One I remember vividly was the “give-it-to-me-now-kid” with the golden goose girl who wanted to have it now! Sometimes, I feel like we live in a world of “Give it to me now”! She was so demanding and snippy that she was plunged down into the “bad egg shoot”!

Most kids under 20 have never gotten up to turn the TV channel. They have always had microwaves in their kitchen—a futuristic contraption from the Jetson’s cartoon I grew up watching. Their world has been so instant that it is harder and harder to have patience.

Younger and Younger

I’m not sure everyone feels this way, but I think kids receive things at younger and younger ages. If you asked my oldest daughter Lindsey she would surely tell you that is true of her younger sister Rachel. Don’t get her started about at what age she got her cellphone compared to when she got hers.

What Next?

I can still hear Mom spouting off the life lesson. “If we get everything we want now, what then? What do we have to look forward to later?” I remember how she would shake her head when she heard of high school kids riding in a limousine. “How in the world will they top that one?”

Patience, Patience

I don’t know about you, but there are times in which I do have a hard time waiting as well. The doctor’s office or the line at the grocery store used to be difficult for me. I now try to catch up on Facebook, read a magazine article, and take some deep breaths. Even the Wicked Witch of the West in the Wizard of Oz had a good point when she shared, “All in good time, my little pretty, all in good time!”

Teaching school for 27 years, I have seen a big shift in the lack of perseverance needed at times for kids to be successful. The number of “I give-uppers” continues to climb. Why? Perhaps it is because “they want it now”. Learning isn’t always on the immediate; they begin to give up, feeling defeated.

Who’s to blame for all this split-second need of fulfillment? Probably, all of us. Science, the media, the “give everyone a trophy” fans, and yep, even you and me. What? Say it’s not so! But, how often do we complain about not having something we want and need to save for the purchase? Perhaps worse, we whip out the credit card for the impulsive buy because of the sale because we “need” a new outfit for the upcoming event—never mind that I have five perfectly appropriate and pretty ones.

So, how do we model the “all in good time, my little pretty” philosophy? We slow down! Take a back road to enjoy the scenery and inform our kids (or grandkids) of the reason. We let them watch us struggle for answers and problem solve out loud. Share a milestone, no matter how big or small, that feels like a marathon to achieve. In short, quit screaming through our actions the words “I want it nnnnoooooowwwww!” like Veruca Salt did as she went sailing down the “rotten egg” chute!

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Mother’s Day: That’s My Mama —by Donna

Thursday night, I sat at a college graduation. It was fun to watch families and their anticipation. The lady sitting in front of me, really caught my attention because she was having a difficult time containing her excitement. Many times, she said, “I can’t believe it. She did it!” About halfway through the list of names, she eagerly said, “It’s almost her turn.”  As she got her phone in position to video, I noticed the tears streaming down her face. Wow! She is so happy for her child; she is crying. But as her graduate crossed the stage in cap and gown, the grown woman yelled, “Woo, hoo…that’s my mama!”

My Mama

My mama lost her mom in a plane crash at the age of five. She was passed from family member to family member, so she never had a “true” mother growing up. It always amazed me at how she became such a wonderful parent, without an example. But, she chose to find and follow the influence of strong Christian women. She took wonderful care of us physically, emotionally, and spiritually—“That’s my mama!”

When I was an infant, I had a heart defect. She stayed up around the clock many long nights feeding me a spoonful of liquid every ten minutes so that I would not dehydrate. –“That’s my mama!”

When I was a toddler and it snowed, she was afraid if I went out I would get sick. Clever as always, she brought in the kiddie pool and filled it with snow so that I could experience my first snowfall –“That’s my mama!”

During the week of Thanksgiving, my daddy and brothers always went camping from Saturday to Saturday leaving the house to just me and mama. I loved the holiday and wanted to do it up big. Every Thanksgiving, she catered to me. We fixed enough food for an army, used the fine china, and adorned the dining room with Thanksgiving decorations. –“That’s my mama!”

When I wanted to wear a Santa hat every year during our Christmas shopping, she wore one too. –“That’s my mama!”

Later in Life

When I found the wedding dress I wanted, all except the sleeves that were hideous; she took care of that too. She bought it and redid the sleeves to exactly what I wanted.—“That’s my mama!”

Being terrified of needles, I have passed out many times at doctors’ offices.  So, during my pregnancies, she drove 92 miles from Fayetteville to Rome accompanying me at every doctor’s visit. –“That’s my mama!”

After each of my three children were born, she came and stayed for two weeks. She cooked, cleaned, and helped out with the newborns.—“That’s my mama.”

When my mama was lying in the hospice bed, withering away to nothing, she repeatedly asked if we were ok and if we had eaten. It was always about us, not her. – “That’s my mama!”

Jesus’s Mama, Mary

When Christ was hanging in agony, standing near the cross was His mama. When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple he loved, He said to his mother, “Woman, here is your son.” Then He said to the disciple, “Here is your mother.” And from that moment, the disciple took her into his home (John 19: 25-27).  I believe Jesus knew the significance of a mother. He knew their love, devotion, and even their mother-bear instinct was of utmost importance. Thus, upon His impending death, He showed his respect to Mary, His mom by honoring her even in His last moments. He made sure she would be taken care of the rest of her life.

Mother, mommy, mom, mama. In fact, some “mom” even go by the name of aunt, cousin, or friend. However, no matter what’s she’s called tomorrow is the day to honor them. Whether she is near or far, or even if you are honoring her memory, enjoy the day. I was blessed to have a wonderful, Christian mother who loved me with all her heart. I can proudly say, “That’s my mama.”

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