Donna and I are basking at the beach this week. We’re excited to have our first guest blogger while we are having fun in the sun. Please enjoy my friend and co-worker Teresa’s thoughts about wedding plans.
Wedding Plans- by Teresa
Growing up, I always “knew” what my future would be. I would marry the man of my dreams in a huge church wedding. We would sail off into the mountain sunset leaving our reception in a huge, multi-colored hot air balloon. I would be “Suzi Homemaker,” like my momma. We would have three beautiful, intelligent children – two girls and a boy and live in a quaint cottage style house surrounded by a white picket fence. We would, of course, have a dog.
Wedding Plans: Bridesmaids
As I became a teenager, my mom and I had many arguments about my wedding. I have always been blessed with an abundance of close friends. Naturally, they would all be in my wedding. Rattling off my long list of bridesmaids my mom attempted to be the voice of reason. I couldn’t see the problem. I had it all planned out.“You can’t have that many bridesmaids, Teresa. That will cost too much money. You will have to cut some of them out,” she’d say.
“I can’t cut any of them out,” I countered. “I have to have Donna, Lisa, and Sheila because they’re my family. Tina has been my best friend since sixth grade. Beverly and I have been close since I was at Sand Hill. I just can’t have a wedding without Becky and Pattie. Pam, Jan, Laura, and I are the four musketeers. Brinda and Rena are like my sisters, so they have to be in it. Jo absolutely has to be my matron of honor. You can’t expect me to exclude any of them!”
Wedding Plans: Flower and Music
These silly arguments about wedding plans occurred countless times, never ending in a resolution. In the meantime, I was busy planning the actual ceremony. Since teal is my favorite, that would be my main color with baby pink as an accent color. There would be gobs of fresh flowers: hydrangeas, roses, and lots and lots of baby’s breath. Uncle Wayne would perform the ceremony. The bridesmaids would wear teal dresses with matching shoes. The matron of honor’s dress would be pink. The groomsmen would wear black tuxes with teal cummerbunds and bow ties.
The songs would be “Two Less Lonely People in the World” by Air Supply and “We’ve Only Just Begun” by the Carpenters. My dress would be a flowing white gown with a ridiculously long train as I walked proudly down the aisle on my daddy’s arm with him beaming from ear to ear. My handsome groom would be standing there waiting for me with tears in his eyes. It was all set.
No More Wedding Plans
One day, in the middle of one of these discussions with my mom, I finally said to her, “Momma, I don’t even have a boyfriend. There’s no point in us talking about my wedding and arguing about my bridesmaids until I am at least dating someone!” So, we stopped having these bridal battles. Still, I continued to plan my future in my mind. To this day, I have a Hallmark card that I bought for my husband-to-be. I planned to give it to him the morning of our wedding day. I’m sure by now it is yellowed from age and probably sounds cornier than it did when I bought it way back in the 80s.
No Prince Charming
I didn’t marry Prince Charming. There was no fairy tale wedding, the one I argued so passionately with my mother about. I don’t have three beautiful, intelligent children, nor do I live in a cottage style house surrounded by a white picket fence. As it turns out, I am still single. I live in a condo with the love of my life, a gorgeous little furry girl with four legs named Graci. (See, I did at least get the dog!) Please don’t feel sorry for me though. I live an extremely full and happy life. I have an amazing family made complete by “Pride” and “Joy,” my nieces. I have more wonderful friends than I deserve. As a veteran teacher of almost 30 years, my job has allowed me to influence and make a difference in the lives of countless children. Graci and I love our home. There is no place on earth I’d rather be. What I didn’t realize back when I was fervently planning my future was that God had plans of His own for me. I truly believe I am living the life God intended for me to have, the life that is the best life for me, the life God knew all along was ordered by Him.
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord…” (Jeremiah 29:11 – NIV)
—Teresa
Love it! Thanks for sharing. I could actually hear you saying these things to your momma. Love you!
How true it is that life often doesn’t turn out the way that we plan…and thank God for that! He truly does know what is best for each of us. Your life is amazing and I love seeing your posts on FB…And thanks for not cutting me out of the wedding party!
Thank you, Lindsey Lou. Love you!
Yikes! Laura, I meant to reply that to Lindsey. Don’t know how to delete it. Thanks for your sweet words.
Thanks, Lindsey Lou! Love you.
Teresa, I have had two husbands and countless dogs. Trust me. Dogs aren’t near as much trouble and are much better companions!!! :). You may have the perfect life!! Here is a quote I love………
AN EVENING AT HOME
Oh Solitude, the soul’s best friend!
How calm and quiet, A delight it is,
Alone,
To read and meditate and write.
By none offended and offending none!
To walk, ride, sit, or sleep at one’s own ease
And pleasing a man’s self, none other to displease.
By Charles Cotton, a friend of Izaak Walton, 1650
And another……..
The happiest of all lives is a busy solitude. Voltaire
Thanks, Brenda. I agree! Graci, my furry girl, is the perfect companion for me. My life is full and I am blessed.
Teresa, enjoyed your blog so much! Your life does sound full and certainly filled with love. ? And, who knows what God has in store for you…he works in his own time.
Thank you, Kathy.
Oh I love this (and you!) so much. I can hear you now arguing with your Mom. Thanks for writing this Tre…XO
Thank you, Patrik! You know our moms were co-presidents of INIMA!
Love it Teresa! I’m so glad we met through education many years ago. Not only are we still friends but now 2 streets down neighbors!!! I never planned to be living up here alone either but I, too, feel I am exactly where God means for me to be! It’s a wonderful feeling, isn’t it? Hope to see you soon. Again, great job!
Thank you, Dot! I appreciate it. ?